Sweet Lad, Tender Lad
A Pictorial History of Afro-American Gay Couples
Sweet lad, tender lad,
Have no shame, you’re mine for good;
We share a sole insurgent fire,
We live in boundless brotherhood.
I do not fear the gibes of men;
One being split in two we dwell,
The kernel of a double nut
Embedded in a single shell.
(From ‘Imitation of the Arabic’ by Afro-Russian poet, Aleksandr Sergeyevich Pushkin)
Playwright & historian, Trent Kelley, has curated these photographs from his personal collection documenting love and affection among African American gay male couples. The essay is entitled ‘Hidden in the Open: A Photographic Essay of Afro-American Male Couples.”
Kelley has written in the Huffington Post:
Afro American same-sex loving gay men who were coupled with one another in the distant past walked the streets, ate at the dinner tables, and generally participated in their larger ethnic community out in the open, their relationships known only to those who were consequential to their everyday lives. In this respect, they were out in the open but hidden to those who didn’t know about their sexual proclivities. Hence, the title of this series of pictures dating from the mid 19th century to the late 20th century is “Hidden in the Open: A Photographic Essay of Afro-American Male Couples.”
Some of these images are sure to depict gay couples, whereas others may not.
The end result is speculative at best, for want in applying a label. Not every gesture articulated between these men is an indication of male-to-male intimacies. Assuredly, what all the photographs have in common are signs of Afro-American male affection and love that were recorded for posterity without fear and shame. Friendships where men often wrote romantically to one another, walked arm in arm were not uncommon to straight and gay men alike during the 19th and early 20th centuries. Depending on economic situation, many even slept together and this may have precluded or included physical intimacy between the sheets.
But there were past generations of Afro American gay men who lived and love bravely. They exist in these photographs. Like today’s gay male of African descent, the majority of them were never victims who whined nor required rescuing. Their presence here defy a lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender (LGBT) community often wanting to make them an impotent footnote absent of any self-empowerment within gay culture and those vocally homophobic pockets within a black community wanting to write these men out of the narrative to Afro-American history.
See the rest of this outstanding collection here.
Someone needs to end Murdock.
The NY Post has been trying to block a libel lawsuit stemming from a Boston Marathon bombing cover photo suggesting that two uninvolved students were the bombers. But this week, a Massachusetts judge denied that bid, giving the smeared individuals free reign to run Rupert Murdoch down.
Salaheddin Barhoum, 17, and Yassine Zaimi, 24, filed the suit last year when a cover featuring the two of them wearing backpacks—a cover emblazoned with the headline, “BAG MEN,”‐ran after the April 15th bombing. Barhoum, a high school student, and part-time college student Zaimi were not involved in the attack, and Barhoum had to go to the police to clear his name. The Post’s editor, Col Allan, did not accept blame for the cover at the time: “We stand by our story. The image was emailed to law enforcement agencies yesterday afternoon seeking information about these men, as our story reported. We did not identify them as suspects.”
According to the suit, the two men maintain they “were not suspects and were not being sought by law enforcement.” The Daily News reports that the suit will continue on.
Nationalism does nothing but teach you to hate people you never met, and to take pride in accomplishments you had no part in.
Q:What are your thoughts on what's going on in Ukraine?
I knew Asians were minimalist, but gheezus.
I want a world that sees people as people who have preferences they can’t control.
Updated Chia Seed Pudding
Raw, vegan, and delicious!
- 2 cups coconut milk
- 1/2 cup chia seeds
- 1/2 cup almond milk
- zest of 1 lime
- 1 mango, peeled, & pitted
- 1/4 cup chopped fresh pineapple
- 1/4 cup agave nectar
- 1 large jar with lid (any container will do; I use old Ball pickle jars)
In jar, place coconut milk & chia seeds. Seal jar, and shake to combine.
In blender, add almond milk, lime zest, mango, pineapple, nectar. Blend until fruit is broken down and all is combined.
Add blender mix to mixture in jar. Seal and shake to combine.
Refrigerate until thick. Turn jar, or shake to keep seeds combined and suspended, every few hours, over the course of 24 hours.
The seeds will turn the whole mixture to a gel like consistency.
Alternates: Add 1/4 cup coconut, or any other fruit (chopped) that you like, replacing the mango or pineapple (about 1/2 cup total).
Change zest to lemon or orange for different flavor; can mix all if desired.