Americans: The only people who can be horrified at Russian homophobia, but thrilled that we murder brown children with drones in countries they couldn’t even find on a map.
The Last Cocktail Party, Palm Springs
Clinton Meyer. I don’t know him personally, but he’s terribly inspirational in my sophomoric 365 project in 2009. (If Clinton is champagne, I was was an old can of diet Tab.) This iwas an amazing photo he did back in 2009 (?)
He’s on Tumblr, after having removed all of his photos on Flickr from people sharing them without his permission. I can understand his anger at that, but I also see the side of the “on the internet, everything is free” mentality.
I’m glad he’s back, posting a few pics here and there on Tumblr. (Oh, did I mention he’s drop dead handsome?!?! Yeah, that x100.)
Good for Michael! Kudos.
(via Michael Sam, SEC Defensive Player of the Year, says he is gay - College Football - Jon Wertheim - SI.com)
Yesterday, Michael Sam was known principally as a fierce and ferocious 260-pound Missouri defensive end, the 2013 SEC Defensive Player of the Year and a potential high-round pick in May’s NFL draft. From the draftnik’s notebooks: He holds the point of attack. He has a good motor. He can play 4-3 or 3-4. True, Sam played unremarkably at the Senior Bowl last month, but he was stationed for the first time at outside linebacker. His maturity — he’s already 24 — and work ethic reside on the extreme edge of the bell curve.
Yet for all he accomplished in four years at Columbia, today Sam became known as something else, something unique in the history of football: an openly gay player on the cusp of his career. Regardless of his 40 time or his performance in the three-cone drill or his Wonderlic score, Sam is now the most intriguing prospect in the NFL. In an act that is at once courageous, unprecedented and postmodern, he has asserted that he is gay. “I’m Michael Sam. I’m a football player and I’m gay,” he told The New York Times.
A year ago, NFL teams were rightfully criticized for asking potential draft picks questions on the order of “Do you have a girlfriend?” This year, Sam will save them the trouble of having to ask.
If Jason Collins demolished one barrier last year — declaring that he was gay within days of finishing his 12th NBA season — Sam laid ruin to another by coming out before the draft. Where Collins is a Stanford grad from Los Angeles, Sam is more than a decade younger and hails from Hitchcock, Texas (pop. 7,200). And unlike Collins — who surprised his twin brother with his revelation — Sam’s sexuality was not a closely guarded secret at Missouri. Sam says he came out to his Missouri teammates last August. Coaches and classmates also knew he was gay well before today. Multiple sources have told SI that Sam strongly considered making an announcement late last summer and was willing to play his senior season as an openly homosexual athlete. (He decided against it at the last minute.)
Word of Sam’s intentions to come out spread beyond Mizzou. Last month, an SI writer approached Sam at the Senior Bowl and asked whether he would like to collaborate on a piece about his sexuality. Sam politely demurred, but he hardly appeared troubled or surprised by the inquiry. He assured the writer that it was okay that he had asked and added matter-of-factly, “It’s going to be a big deal no matter who I do it with.”
It’s telling, too, that no one in Sam’s orbit “outed” him, enabling him to tell his story on his terms and timetable. At some level this is a story about a generation gap. Sam and his cohort were raised in the era of Will & Grace and Modern Family, not The Brady Bunch, let alone My Three Sons. Friends, coaches and teammates all invoked the same line: It just wasn’t a big deal.
It remains to be seen, of course, whether Sam’s sexuality will be a big deal in the NFL. The history is stubbornly uneven. As intensely analyzed as Sam will be, the NFL and entire Republic of Football will come under great scrutiny. When it was recently revealed that multiple key members of the 1993 Houston Oilers were gay, the response — then and now — was a collective shrug. “Listen, those guys that we’re talking about were unbelievable teammates,” said Pro Bowl linebacker Lamar Lathon. “And if you wanted to go to war with someone, you would get those guys first. Because I have never seen tougher guys than those guys.” On the other hand, it was barely a year ago that 49ers cornerback Chris Culliver warned that a gay teammate wouldn’t be welcome in the locker room, and barely a week ago that Saints linebacker Jonathan Vilma expressed concern that a gay teammate might look at him in the shower.
There were murmurs last season that four prominent NFL players were going to come out en masse, buffered by “straight allies” such as punter Chris Kluwe and ex-linebacker Brendan Ayanbadejo. While the rhetoric of acceptance suggested that perhaps a football locker room wasn’t the benighted cave it’s been cracked up to be, the fact remains, the players never emerged. Instead? There were Kluwe’s allegations that his special teams coach in Minnesota expressed a desire to “round up all the gays, send them to an island, and then nuke it until it glows.” And the troubling free agency of Kerry Rhodes.
As for where Sam will get drafted, consider that he is the 11th man to win the SEC Defensive Player of the Year award. Each of the previous 10 winners was drafted prominently, eight in the first round.
Sam is a trailblazer and, by definition, that means embarking with no map or template. Nevertheless, he has equipped himself. His team of advisors includes Howard Bragman, an L.A. publicist with experience helping celebrities come out. Sam met with Collins in L.A. and spoke to Ayanbadejo. Last week plans were also afoot to put Sam together with former NFL cornerback Wade Davis, who came out in 2012, and Robbie Rogers, the openly gay L.A. Galaxy midfielder. As more athletes come out, a community of support has formed and fortified.
This we know: All the inevitable homophobic tweets and slurs will be offset by overwhelming support. As state after state recognizes marriage equality and Google devotes its daily “doodle” to protest Russia’s homophobic legislation, and even the sitting Pope appears to accept homosexuality, figures like Sam are respected far more than they’re reviled. For whatever short-term grief or dissonance he may encounter; for however many NFL teams decline to draft him, preferring not to deal with sexuality issues (or, in fairness, the attendant media circus); for whatever catcalls he hears in stadiums and in the trenches; he will be celebrated globally.
Consider: Barely a week after attending the State of the Union as a guest of Michelle Obama, Collins plans to spend much of Monday flying back to Washington, D.C., for a White House dinner. Suffice it to say, a year ago, he was not getting these invitations. It is the diminishing ranks of the intolerant, who now reside on the margins of society and the curb of the culture.
“Any stigma is fading,” said Martina Navratilova, one of the first in the lineage of openly gay athletes. “It’s all becoming a question of when not if. The next when is an active gay athlete. It’s happening brick-by-brick and pretty soon, we’ll have the whole house.” She then took a second, to chuckle in happy disbelief. “We’ve hit this tipping point, this flood, this … I don’t know what the term is.”
Actually, there is a word for this: progress.
Source: Sports Illustrated
This could well become the symbol of these Olympic Games. It was supposed to be a breathtaking moment. Snow was falling from the ceiling (it was an incredible effect) and the giant glowing snowflakes at the center of the stadium were to transforming into the five Olympic Rings. One of the snowflakes failed to open and suddenly it was breathtaking in an entirely different way, as if everyone realized at the same moment that something had gone wrong. It is already trending on Twitter. This isn’t the kind of display Russian organizers had in mind.
Because it’s two seconds away from:
OMG the homosexual agenda goes way back!
Lance Bass' Southern Baptist mom tells church the "miracle" of unconditional love for gay son | GLAAD
The mom of openly gay singer Lance Bass spoke with a local church about her journey as a Christian mom with a gay son. This week, Lance shared the transcript of her testimony with The Huffington Post.
Lance prefaces the transcript by recalling parts of his own difficult path of growing up gay and living in the south: “The constant fear of people discovering who you really were and the inevitable shame that would fall upon you and your family dictated how you lived your life every day.”
In what he describes as “a very open and honest letter,” Lance’s mom addressed her church, which she felt had much progress to make regarding its treatment of the LGBT community. Her words were not only welcomed, but made such a splash that another local church invited her speak to its congregation on the subject, so that’s exactly what she did.
While she announced to the crowd, “I am not a public speaker,” Diane’s words poignantly captured the ways many people connect their faith with their support for people who are LGBT, as well as the frustrating disconnect between one’s faith and the actions of one’s faith community.
Diane let the church members know how deeply her devotion to her religion runs. “I have been a Southern Baptist all my life,” she explained. ”I attended Sunday School and church as a child. I married a man with the same Christian principles as me and we raised our two children in the church as well. My husband is an ordained deacon, I taught Sunday School, sang in the choir, taught vacation Bible School, attended Bible studies and revivals just like most of you.”
When her son first came out to her, Diane prayed for a miracle. “Lance is still gay,” she said, “However, I did get a miracle.”
(This is where it gets awesome:)
"The miracle is that I learned to have unconditional love and compassion for my son and others in the gay community. I haven’t marched in parades or spoken at conventions, but I do feel that God has led me to speak out concerning the church’s role. My son is a Christian and wants to be able to worship, but he does not feel that the church cares about him and has pretty much disowned him as a fellow believer. There is something terribly wrong with that and I have to speak up on behalf of my son and others who ﬁnd themselves in the same situation. When I was a little girl, I went to a celebration with my grandparents on the courthouse lawn in Laurel. I was thirsty and ran to drink some water from one of the water fountains. My grandmother screamed at me to stop. When I looked at the
fountain it had the word ‘Colored’ on it and she told me I had to drink out of another one. I was only 6 years old but I knew something was just not right about that. Just as my heart told me something was wrong that day on the courthouse lawn, my heart is telling me that something is wrong with the way the church treats those who are gay.”
As her speech came to a close, Diane offered a prayer, “that we can all try to have a Christ-like attitude while on this earth. We, as Christians, must let the Holy Spirit lead us to ﬁnd ways to reach out to all people regardless of our differences because I truly believe it is the right thing to do. I am convinced that is what Jesus would do.”
Diane’s experience is not uncommon. For many, reconciling religious faith with compassion for LGBT folk is not the challenge, and, indeed, they often go hand in hand, as they did for Diane. Rather, a bigger hurdle can be getting an institution’s policies and actions to reflect the evolving positions of its members. Less than a month ago, for example, hundreds of students at a Catholic high school staged a protest in support of their vice principal, who was fired for being gay. With time and persistence, though, change is possible. Some of the biggest LGBT faith moments of 2013 include the election of a gay Lutheran bishop, continued actions towards marriage equality within multiple denominations, and more.
Of his mom’s words, Lance said, “To me, she represents a true Christian and what the majority of Christians believe today in the country.”
You can read the full transcript of Diane’s speech at the Huffington Post.
Let me start out by saying that I am not a public speaker. As a matter of fact, this is the first time I have ever spoken publicly on this topic and I hope you will bear with me. Ever since I agreed to speak to you, I have asked for courage and I hope you will pray for me as I try to tell you what is in my heart.
I am here to share my testimony. Please know that I am NOT here to debate the issue of homosexuality. I would never do that because I do not have all the answers and will probably never have them in this life. The Bible warns of false teachers and I would never say anything that might possibly be considered false teaching. However there are some things I feel led to share that I know beyond a doubt are true and I will share those with you tonight.
First, I need to let you know that I have been a Southern Baptist all my life. I attended Sunday School and church as a child. I married a man with the same Christian principles as me and we raised our two children in the church as well. My husband is an ordained deacon, I taught Sunday School, sang in the choir, taught vacation Bible School, attended Bible studies and revivals just like most of you. Both my children were saved and baptized at an early age and two of my three small grandchildren have already been baptized. We are a Christian family with deep roots in the church and the teachings of the Bible.
Seven years ago, we found out that Lance is gay. We were totally blindsided and devastated because never in a million years would we have guessed it. Also, because it was such a public thing, the situation was so much worse on the family. I do not want to go into the personal details of that revelation, but I will tell you that the ﬁrst thing I did was fall to my knees and ask, “What would Jesus do?” I almost immediately knew the answer… love my son. And that is what I have done. Never once did I ever think about turning my back on him. Never once was I ashamed or embarrassed. My feelings were more of sadness and just sheer disappointment in life.
If you believe that being gay is a choice, then the rest of what I say will not matter. I do not know why, but even as a staunch Christian, I personally never believed that being gay was a choice. I never knew a lot of gay people, but the ones I did meet I felt compassion for because I could feel their pain of being rejected and my heart always went out to them. Even though I never did believe Lance chose to be gay, I did not accept it as quickly as my husband did. His attitude was “It is what it is.” My attitude was “Yes, it is what it is but my God can perform miracles so I’m going to beg for a miracle to zap Lance and change him to straight!” And I did just that. I continued to love my son, stand beside him, and defend him, but for several years I continued to pray relentlessly for a miracle.
Well, Lance is still gay. However, I did get a miracle. It is just not the miracle I prayed for. You are looking at the miracle tonight. The miracle is that I learned to have unconditional love and compassion for my son and others in the gay community. I haven’t marched in parades or spoken at conventions, but I do feel that God has led me to speak out concerning the church’s role. My son is a Christian and wants to be able to worship, but he does not feel that the church cares about him and has pretty much disowned him as a fellow believer. There is something terribly wrong with that and I have to speak up on behalf of my son and others who ﬁnd themselves in the same situation. When I was a little girl, I went to a celebration with my grandparents on the courthouse lawn in Laurel. I was thirsty and ran to drink some water from one of the water fountains. My grandmother screamed at me to stop. When I looked at the
fountain it had the word “Colored” on it and she told me I had to drink out of another one. I was only 6 years old but I knew something was just not right about that. Just as my heart told me something was wrong that day on the courthouse lawn, my heart is telling me that something is wrong with the way the church treats those who are gay.
I could tell you many stories that gay young people have told me about how so-called Christian people have treated them but I will only share one. One of the young men told me that he was searching for God and visited a large church one Easter Sunday. He was enjoying the beautiful service and feeling so drawn to what he was experiencing.
Everyone was standing singing a hymn and when he sat down there was a note in his chair. It said, “You know you are going to hell.” He told me that he never went to church again. I don’t blame him, but to my knowledge, he has not accepted Christ and is lost.
When I found out Lance was gay, I dove into the scriptures looking for answers. The scriptures that kept jumping out to me were Jesus’s warnings about judgment. The person who wrote that note should heed those warnings. Jesus says in Luke 6:37 ”Do not judge, and you will not be judged. Do not condemn, and you will not be condemned. Forgive and you will be forgiven.” Jesus is telling us that we cannot lead others to him if we are judging and condemning them.
When I hear fellow Sunday School members, co-workers, politicians, and Christian people on TV and radio say negative, judgmental things about gays, I just cringe and it breaks my heart. Not only are the Christian community pushing away gays who are Christians, we are alienating those who are lost.
I believe with all my heart that Jesus would say to all Christians who are gay that they belong to him and that he loves them unconditionally. Jesus says in John 10:27-28, “My sheep listen to my voice; I know them, and they follow me. I give them eternal life, and they shall never perish; no one can snatch them out of my hand.”
I feel like I am on a journey and it just continues on each day. I would like to share one ﬁnal revelation on this journey. Because I am such a tenderhearted person, sometimes my broken heart felt unbearable so I asked God to take away my tender heart. I don’t know why I did this, but I looked up the word “tenderhearted” in the dictionary and it meant “having compassion”. One day after that I read this scripture: “If you have any encouragement from being united with Christ, if any comfort from his love, if any fellowship with the Spirit, if any TENDERNESS and compassion, then make my joy complete by being like-minded, having the same love… Your attitude should be the same as that of Jesus Christ.” (Phillippians 2:1-5) God’s message to me was clear. If he took away my tender heart, I would no longer have compassion for others. If I did not have compassion for others, I would not have the attitude of Christ. I never prayed
that God take away my tender heart again. I believe the church needs to show that some compassion for everyone regardless of gender, regardless of race, and regardless of sexual orientation.
My favorite scripture has always been, “God is my refuge and strength, a very present help in trouble.” (Psalm 46:1) I truly have found refuge in my Lord but I have to sadly tell you that I have not found refuge in my church. And neither has Lance and so many other Christians like him who want to be loved and accepted in a world that can be very cruel and hateful. I still attend church but admittedly with a heavy heart and with much anxiety. If I feel that way as the mother of a gay child, can you imagine the anxiety that a gay person sitting in my church feels? Once again, there is just something wrong with that.
It would take a book to tell you every little detail of my journey and all that I have experienced and learned along the way. I have tried to brieﬂy give you a testimony of the things God has laid on my heart. It is my prayer that we can all try to have a Christ-like attitude while on this earth. We, as Christians, must let the Holy Spirit lead us to ﬁnd ways to reach out to all people regardless of our differences because I truly believe it is the right thing to do. I am convinced that is what Jesus would do.
Thank you for allowing me to share with you and God bless you.
"Good Morning America" anchor Robin Roberts seems to have publicly come out as a lesbian. In a letter posted on her Facebook page, she addresses her sexual orientation by acknowledging her “long time girlfriend” named Amber Laign.
"I am grateful for my entire family, my long time girlfriend, Amber, and friends as we prepare to celebrate a glorious new year together," Roberts writes in her post, which reflects back on what she is grateful for in her life since her bone marrow transplant in 2012.
As CNN’s Brian Stelter notes on Twitter, “That message is the first time that @RobinRoberts has spoken publicly about her sexual orientation.” Stelter wrote the book"Top of the Morning," which discusses the anchors on ABC’s “GMA” and NBC’s"Today." Roberts has been out to her family, friends and coworkers for years, but has never publicly acknowledged her sexuality.
An ABC News spokeswoman tells Varietythat Laign and Roberts have been in a relationship for 10 years. Laign is a massage therapist in private practice who hails from the Bay Area.
Roberts is joining good company of TV news anchors who have come out openly as homosexual. Her former “GMA” coworkerSam Champion is out, as are Anderson Cooper and Thomas Roberts.
tyler oakley and the FCKH8 campaign have a lot in common
and by that i mean they’re both super embarrassing to the queer community because they focus entirely on the G in LGBTQ, they either shit all over or ignore trans and non-binary people, and they like to use the gross “angry black woman” trope for cheap laughs