They say ever 35# a guy loses, he gains an inch of his penis back, so……

But seriously - congrats to Chaz on the weight loss.

They say ever 35# a guy loses, he gains an inch of his penis back, so……

But seriously - congrats to Chaz on the weight loss.

Witnessing to the gays about anarchism.  (He was in Dubai.)

Witnessing to the gays about anarchism.  (He was in Dubai.)

tjokke:

Like a #new #person ! #beard #trim

This man is so beautiful.

tjokke:

Like a #new #person ! #beard #trim

This man is so beautiful.

thadsthoughts:

Hand placement.

….is everything for a good kiss.

thadsthoughts:

Hand placement.

….is everything for a good kiss.

(via acoustickub)

mansbestfriend:

chubsrule:

blucubby:

hunkyhuntin:

VERY VERY TRUE

Too true


It’s true.

If you don’t believe it, find out.  We’re pretty fantastic in bed.

mansbestfriend:

chubsrule:

blucubby:

hunkyhuntin:

VERY VERY TRUE

Too true

It’s true.

If you don’t believe it, find out.  We’re pretty fantastic in bed.

(via legorion)

I love what?

I love what?

Congrats!

"So I will speak the truth here. Being gay is wrong. God did not create you that way. Also, it was not a demon that made you gay, it was your choice. That is why the prayer didn’t work. You didn’t take responsibility for it. Demons do not have power, God gave us authority over demons. We just obey the devil and give him access to our authority. It is your choice. You need to receive the Love of God to wash that stuff out of your life."

- some self-appointed speaker for all things God on YouTube.  

They said pretty much the same thing on my YouTube page, most of which I deleted.  Then they found my Google+, & emailed me there.  They felt such a need to tell me all about myself, they just couldn’t resist (heard from those kind of people before, Christian or otherwise).  I filtered him on my email too, and he’ll be permanently deleted never seeing my Inbox.

Let me share something with Christians - don’t preach to me about what you think God says about anything.  I’ve been a born-again Christian since I was seven years old.  I was born in an independent Baptist church (which my grandfather & four other families started in the 50’s).  I was toddling down the aisles before I knew where I was.  I’ve been through the Pray-The-Gay Away type therapy.  It’s harmful, damaging, and took me years to stop hating myself, stop having zero self-esteem about being a gay man, and not only feel, but know, I’m priceless (as everyone is, actually).

I’ve also learned that I did not choose to be gay.  Gay people don’t make lists like:

  1. Run to bank, make deposit
  2. Pick up dry cleaning
  3. Get gas
  4. Suck a dick
  5. Get wine for party at Anna & Dustin’s
  6. Call Best Buy about Reward Zone card

Just doesn’t work that way.  It’s not some need to have a father figure.  I have a father.  And frankly, that whole daddy/son thing that some gay men do is creepy as fuck to me.  I don’t even want someone jokingly calling me “papi” or whatever.  (I had one guy call me “slave” one time, & I punched him in his chest.)  People just don’t choose to be gay.  Who would choose the backlash, the hatefulness, the sanctimonious venom & utter stupidity LGBT people face daily (depending on their situation of course)?  Who CHOOSES that?!  Even Jesus is like “What is that guy talking about?”

The Bible says, in Philippians 2:12-15:

….work hard to show the results of your salvation, obeying God with deep reverence and fear.  For God is working in you, giving you the desire and the power to do what pleases him.  Do everything without complaining and arguing, so that no one can criticize you. Live clean, innocent lives as children of God, shining like bright lights in a world full of crooked and perverse people.

So before one of you self-righteous born-again types come at this born-again type & tell me what’s right & wrong, I would challenge you to look in your own closet first.

And don’t walk away from this entry and think “love the sinner, but hate the sin”.  That demotes being gay to one act.  We’re SO much more fabulous than that!

Jabbar Campbell said his eye and lip were battered in an  attack by homophobic Brooklyn cops Sunday.

Jabbar Campbell said his eye and lip were battered in an attack by homophobic Brooklyn cops Sunday.

A group of homophobic cops committed “a hate crime” at a gay pride party in Brooklyn early Sunday, beating up the host while screaming hateful slurs, the alleged victim told the Daily News.

Officers from the 77th Precinct, responding to reports of noise at the Sterling Place party, “bum-rushed” Jabbar Campbell after he opened the door of his apartment.

“They were screaming and cursing saying things like ‘fag,’ ‘homo,’ ‘a—hole,’ just a bunch of anti-gay slurs,” Campbell, a 32-year-old forensic specialist, told The News.

Campbell said he was beaten by the officers, who bloodied his mouth, split open his lip and caused swelling to his left eye. He was then handcuffed and charged with resisting arrest — and spent 24 hours in police custody.



Jodie Foster came out five years ago

She was toying with it last night, and everyone fell for it like a buncha numbnuts.  

She came out in 2007, publicly, and thank her then partner Cydney Bernard.  They’d been together for 14 years at that point.

This is not news.

Let’s move on.

A Cameroon court has overturned the conviction of two men who were sentenced for five years in prison for “looking gay” and ordering Bailey’s Irish Cream. The Court of Appeals Monday acquitted the men and ordered their release. The two men had already spent more than a year in jail where they were subjected to abuse from guards and other prisoners, according to human rights advocates. The new ruling has been hailed by human rights lawyers and gay rights advocates who urged President Paul Biya to release all other prisoners found guilty under the country’s harsh anti-gay laws. On December 17, a Cameroonian court upheld the five-year-sentence of another man, Roger Jean-Claude Mbede, who was convicted of sending a text message that said “I love you” to another man.

This is how you practice a little Anarchism, even late at night (whether you realize it or not)…

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This past weekend I was a part of something incredible that happened in my community of Columbus, Ohio. After a fun night out in the Short North, my friend Ethan and I ventured down the street to a popular pizza truck called Mikey’s Late Night Slice. As a frequent late night visitor to the truck I knew the requisite wait in line is part of the process for securing an insanely good slice of pizza. It was really cold so Ethan and I were holding hands and standing close together to keep warm, we were laughing and joking about all the fun we’d had that night, when all of the sudden the guy in front of us turns around and tells us to cut our “gay shit” out.

I was a bit startled by his words but I didn’t expect what happened next. Almost every single person in that line made it known to him it was not OK for him to speak to us like that. By happenstance my friend John, who is also gay, was standing in front of him and as he continued his rant about being disgusted by us we both let him know that this was our city too and that we were not about to stand down to his bigoted ideas, especially not in one of the gayest neighborhoods in town. As he continued it was actually the straight people in line who spoke up that were so awesome.

I didn’t expect to see allies so willing to chime in and let this guy know that his hate speech wouldn’t be tolerated. The best part though was as he grew more irate and vocal the guys who work the truck stopped what they were doing and leaned towards the window and told him they would not serve him because he was spewing hate. They said they support everyone in our community and that he should get out of line because they would not be serving him. He begrudgingly got out of line and walked away escorted by a friend who had been hanging back.

As I walked away with my pizza all I could think about was “THAT’S IT!” Every person who spoke up to defend us including the pizza guys representing their business was doing their part to make hate a thing of the past. I’ve been involved for a number of years with our movement for equality having co-chaired the Human Rights Campaign dinner in Columbus and being involved as a community organizer but I had never witnessed such a public display of support. It was incredibly moving.

The next day I typed up a post on Facebook and shared it thinking my friends that read it might enjoy the display of courage of those that stood with Ethan and I that night and appreciate a local small business standing up for us as well. What I did not expect was the post to go viral and the responses from people all over the country regarding the story. It has been shared over 900 times since Sunday morning and a version with a fantastic response from Mikey’s Late Night Slice was posted to reddit with over 266,000 views to date.

I think the story was so powerful because we as an LGBT community don’t hear these types of stories where our allies and businesses speak up against oppressors. I think the fact that the story takes place in Ohio also has something to do with it. The state doesn’t have the best reputation for LGBT rights but Columbus is a very progressive city in our state. We have a very large active gay population and we are the home of one of the largest pride festivals in the Midwest. The city just celebrated its bicentennial and is known as a smart and open city, which is a testament to the diversity of our community here.

I think stories like this shared by our LGBT friends and allies are important because it gives people hope and courage. It shows that the arc of the moral universe does bend towards justice and we are not alone in this struggle. I ended my post by saying we must never forget to speak up and make our voices heard no matter where we find ourselves. I firmly believe this is how we will continue to change hearts and minds across this country and in the world but we can’t do it alone, we need everyone to take up our mantle for equality and drive it forward. I’m inspired and amazed at what has transpired with what started off as a simple post in appreciation of people who stood up for us and am grateful for the opportunity to share a little bit of Columbus with the world.

Always shampoo and condition the beard!

Always shampoo and condition the beard!

Someone just told me that I’m gay because I was born with a woman inside me, that’s why I’m attracted to other men. Black guy, too, allegedly “open minded & accepting” of gay folks.

What the actual fuck?

image

Should be noted that it was

  • a musician who most people would know (more prominent in the 80’s)
  • is a black man
I’m not overly sensitive on things.  I’m really not.  But I do spot prejudice & bullshit like any common sense person.
Singer Dionne Farris (Arrested Development) reblogged this photo on her Facebook page earlier today.  It irked me.  I think the argument against it is clear & obvious.  I also understand that homophobia runs rampant in the black community.  It just does. Not in everyone, but it’s there, and it’s strong (frankly, probably just as much as flat out racism exists w/ white folks against anyone non-white).  
For Ms. Farris to come from a place of being a voice for freedom, civil rights, and equality (a la Arrested Development), I’m a bit perplexed by her reblog of this photo.
Being gay is no more a punch line than being black or Hispanic is, at all.  I get humor. I get making jokes at stereotypes to break them down.  A man wearing a kilt isn’t a stereotype, nor is it gay (no more than drinking orange soda & eating watermelon is black).  The original poster of the image said, “What’s up with all these rappers wearing dresses? And a damn kilt is still a dress/skirt. We aint in Scotland nigga.”.  Prince Charlies isn’t in Scotland either, but he wears a kilt.  (Kayne wearing a kilt was just odd.  It was leather.  Not very ethnic there - how many cows had to die for that anyway?)  Black people wearing dashikis aren’t in Africa either (if they’re in amurrika), yet I dare anyone to walk up to them and say “nigga, you wearin’ a dress, go back to Africa”.  Oh, cuz that’s racist!  HOW DARE SOMEONE BE RACIST.
But you know - being homphobic is as amurrikan as sucking dick or fireworks.  Oops, fireworks date back to 7th century China.

I’m not overly sensitive on things.  I’m really not.  But I do spot prejudice & bullshit like any common sense person.

Singer Dionne Farris (Arrested Development) reblogged this photo on her Facebook page earlier today.  It irked me.  I think the argument against it is clear & obvious.  I also understand that homophobia runs rampant in the black community.  It just does. Not in everyone, but it’s there, and it’s strong (frankly, probably just as much as flat out racism exists w/ white folks against anyone non-white).  

For Ms. Farris to come from a place of being a voice for freedom, civil rights, and equality (a la Arrested Development), I’m a bit perplexed by her reblog of this photo.

Being gay is no more a punch line than being black or Hispanic is, at all.  I get humor. I get making jokes at stereotypes to break them down.  A man wearing a kilt isn’t a stereotype, nor is it gay (no more than drinking orange soda & eating watermelon is black).  The original poster of the image said, “What’s up with all these rappers wearing dresses? And a damn kilt is still a dress/skirt. We aint in Scotland nigga.”.  Prince Charlies isn’t in Scotland either, but he wears a kilt.  (Kayne wearing a kilt was just odd.  It was leather.  Not very ethnic there - how many cows had to die for that anyway?)  Black people wearing dashikis aren’t in Africa either (if they’re in amurrika), yet I dare anyone to walk up to them and say “nigga, you wearin’ a dress, go back to Africa”.  Oh, cuz that’s racist!  HOW DARE SOMEONE BE RACIST.

But you know - being homphobic is as amurrikan as sucking dick or fireworks.  Oops, fireworks date back to 7th century China.