Well gatdayum!
(via mensroom)
NBA veteran centre Jason Collins has become the first active player in any US major professional sports leagues to reveal that he is gay, doing so to Sports Illustrated in a major cover story released on Monday.
Collins, who is now a free agent, has played in the NBA for 12 seasons with six teams, spending this past campaign with the Boston Celtics and Washington Wizards. He helped the New Jersey Nets reach the 2002 and 2003 NBA Finals.
“I’m a 34-year-old NBA centre. I’m black and I’m gay,” began the story that Collins penned for the magazine with writer Franz Lidz.
“I didn’t set out to be the first openly gay athlete playing in a major American team sport. But since I am, I’m happy to start the conversation.
“I wish I wasn’t the kid in the classroom raising his hand and saying, ‘I’m different.’ If I had my way, someone else would have already done this. Nobody has, which is why I’m raising my hand.”
Landmark revelation
The landmark revelation will now focus attention on Collins and any club that decides to sign him as well as the attitudes of his new teammates.
Among the messages of support Collins received for his admission were those from former US president Bill Clinton, whose daughter Chelsea was a college friend of Collins at Stanford, and NBA commissioner David Stern.
“Jason’s announcement today is an important moment for professional sports and in the history of the LGBT (Lesbian-Gay-Bisexual-Transgender) community,” Clinton said.
“It is also the straightforward statement of a good man who wants no more than what so many of us seek: to be able to be who we are; to do our work; to build families and to contribute to our communities.
“For so many members of the LGBT community, these simple goals remain elusive. I hope that everyone, particularly Jason’s colleagues in the NBA, the media and his many fans extend to him their support and the respect he has earned.”
Stern said Jason and his brother Jarron “have been exemplary members of the NBA family” and praised Collins for the courage and leadership of his admission.
“Jason has been a widely respected player and teammate throughout his career and we are proud he has assumed the leadership mantle on this very important issue,” Stern said.
Best proposal ever…and without saying a word.
Gay Men: There’s No Honor In Suffering
Stop torturing yourself.
Damn it, stop with the pity party. You’re either 1) doing it because you believe it; or 2) you do it so people will in turn say “Aww,that’s not true. you’re great, man.” Either way, it’s stupid.
Stop gawking at, and posting pictures of, ridiculously ripped, muscled, shaven, and tattooed (or any combination thereof) men, the boohooing to yourself that you will never get a man. At that rate, you’re right - you never will.
If you want to look like that guy in the picture, because you want to attract that, then change yourself, but know that you have your reward. If you want to change to look and feel better for you, then stop drinking soda, eat more vegetables, and fruits, and protein. Work the fuck out. Bored in the evening? Do sit-ups while watching television. Better yet, take all your clothes off, turn on, and up, some dance music, and dance like it’s your last chance ever. Work up a ridiculous sweat, then go take a long hot shower. Moisturize when you get out, and go to bed and fall asleep reading a book. Even if you only get through 10 pages, it beats 10 minutes of the fucking Kardashians.
Hold your head up when you walk, and don’t assume everyone is looking at you, or talking about you, when you walk by. And if they are, assume they like what they see, rather than they are hating on some random stranger.
If you want to attract someone like you post in pictures, then get in front of them, and be yourself. Be as goofy, as weird, as fat, as thin, as pale, as tan, as unkempt, as scruffy, as groomed as you want to be. The right people will be drawn to you. The ones who laugh at you will do so without the pleasure of your company and friendship. But if you’re changing yourself to try and please someone else, who will end up being your clone, you can sit in front of a mirror and do that, and save us all some time.
How you see yourself is how others will see you. If you’re selling negativity, and “oh, I’m fat”, or “I’ll never get a six pack” (which, by the way, is highly overrated, and looks like a fucking insect’s thorax on most guys), then that’s what people will buy. If you exude defeat, you’ll easily be defeated; yet the biggest battle is in your head, not on the streets.
Don’t be over picky to the point that you’re 40 or 50, and still single, fucking around with the random hookup who you may or may not ever see again, or hear from. it’s great to have friends, but most likely you’re not sleeping with them, having kids with them, or buying a home with them. Don’t picky yourself into perpetual bachelorhood.
You might have to “settle”, which means this: not every single requirement on your bullshit list of demands on a man will be met; in fact, very few will be. Dr. Frank N. Furter tried to create the perfect man, and look how that shit turned out.
I see so many of you on here, and you’re so fucking beautiful, but all you do is bitch and moan about this hair or that wrinkle or whatever. You know what? You’re aging. Get over it. Whether you’re 25 or 45, you’re aging every single fucking day since you slid out of your mother’s womb. Accept that shit. it’s real, and it should be a moot point.
Let time be your motivation to accomplish as much as you can, and love as hard as you can until you puff out your last breath. Haven’t we suffered enough with rejection from our churches, our families, our alleged friends because of who we really are? Why the hell are we rejecting ourselves and those in our own community?
You are wonderful as you are, and frankly we can all stand for some improvement physically, mentally, and spiritually. In the meantime, get busy living. And stop torturing yourself. There’s no honor in suffering.
I thought Beyonce was mesmerizing with her pussy shake, but then I saw this….
…and I was gone.
"I don’t care who you love, I just think ‘marriage’ should be between a man and a woman."
— Who gives a shit what you think? Arrogance at its best.
A young British man has been convicted of manslaughter after killing a gay teen by setting him on fire.
The BBC reports that 20-year-old Jordan Sheard has been sentenced to three and a half years in jail for the death of Steven Simpson after pleading guilty to manslaughter charges. Simpson, 18, died one day after sustaining “significant burns” in June 2012, according to the report.
Simpson had Asperger’s syndrome, a speech impairment and epilepsy, the Yorkshire Post noted. The teen had reportedly been dared to strip down to his underpants before being doused in tanning oil, after which Sheard set him aflame at the party. Other reports said that anti-gay messages, including “gay boy” and “I love d*ck,” had been found scrawled across Simpson’s body.
Detective Sean Middleton described Simpson to the BBC as “a very caring and likeable young man” and a “generous spirit was taken advantage of and a single thoughtless act resulted in his death.”
A number of local lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender (LGBT) rights advocates said they believed Sheard’s prison term to be too lenient, but prosecuting attorney Tim Warburton nonetheless told The Star that the sentence was “within the range of what would be expected had it been considered a hate crime,” and that it would not be appealed.
“This was a cruel case of bullying based on Steven’s sexuality and disability,” Warburton is quoted as saying. “While we accept Jordan did not intend to kill Steven, his actions did lead to his death.”
Meanwhile, Sheard’s attorney said his client had been “deeply and significantly affected by what he has done and the tragic consequences that ensued,” which describing Simpson’s death as a “stupid prank that went wrong in a bad way,” the Daily Mail noted.
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What the fuck is wrong with people?!?!?!?!?!
Today, I was visiting my parents and we went to the park to relax because of the nice weather.
As it turns out, a wedding was going on in the area, which isn’t uncommon for that park.I had my camera and was taking pictures of things and two little boys run over from the wedding ceremony, hand in hand and sit on the bench in front of me. I took a picture because it was just too adorable.
Next, they come closer to me, see my camera, and the one with the red hair says “Take a picture of me and my boyfriend!” and tries to get the other one to pose with him. I smile at the term, but don’t say anything, and take the picture.
I ask if they are with the wedding and they both nod, the redhead saying “Yes. And you know two boys can get married here now, too? Me and my boyfriend can get married.”
And I just thought it was so crazy and amazing that these two little boys were so open about themselves, even if it turns out later in their lives that they’re not gay, it’s still amazing.
The brown-haired one at one point took a pretty big spill on the pavement, and me and my parents ran over to see if he was okay, but had a scrape on his elbow. He said he was fine, and that his mom had a bandaid he could use, so his boyfriend kissed him on the mouth and held his hand, taking him over to where the adults in the wedding were.
It’s incredible how much things are changing and how open kids are able to be.
Let’s hope no adult ever comes along & tells them love is ever wrong (whether they turn out gay or not).
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If you want to be a bigmouthed bigot, hey, it’s a free country. Just take a few lessons from what’s happened to your fellow homophobes this week. Intolerance just isn’t as tolerated as it once was.
Let’s say, for example, you’re a folk singer with a once-strong lesbian following who peaked in the late eighties. Let’s say you went all “born-again, sanctified, saved-in-the-blood Christian” a few years back. Then let’s say you show up for a gig in San Francisco, a town that is known for being, oh, on the gay-friendly side, at a gay-owned club called Yoshi’s. And you reportedly start talking about how you’re afraid that the world will be destroyed if gays are allowed to marry, and cap it off by telling the audience “You can go on Twitter and say ‘Michelle Shocked says God hates fags.’”
Perhaps you were being a little cheeky there. After all, anyone who calls herself Shocked must have a talent for pushing buttons. The whole “God hates fags” thing isn’t always a crowd-pleaser, though. What happened next was immediate and unambiguous. Because the audience members did indeed take your advice to heart. Most of them walked out on the spot, and word of your tirade got around pretty quickly after that. Yoshi’s patron Matt Penfield told Yahoo! this week that to watch your performance in San Francisco was to be in the presence of “someone who is clearly having a breakdown,” an unfortunate update for a person who’s spoken in the past of her mental health battles. And yet, you clearly thought you could just go on with the show. Were you surprised, then, when the club cut off your microphone and turned out the lights? Did you guess that being the self-appointed “world’s greatest homophobe” would cause such a swift change in your travel plans? On Tuesday, Billboard confirmed that 10 out of your next 11 tour dates have been canceled. When Meander’s Kitchen in Seattle 86′ed your scheduled show there next month, it specifically referenced your “homophobic performance in San Francisco last night.” You’re still booked for Madison’s Harmony Bar, but a source from the club says the owner is out of town, so you may not want to get your heart set on seeing the wonders of Wisconsin any time soon there, either.
‘I thought he could have done better for his country than just go to the lowest common denominator and stir up the crap’
Cyndi Lauper isn’t having any of what she thinks are Donald Trump’s bigoted views and actions.
Lauper is blasting the three-times married Trump for some of stance against marriage equality and for some of his antics regarding President Barack Obama during last year’s presidential campaign.
‘I’m not going to kiss ass with somebody like that,Lauper tells Next magazine. ‘I felt that what he said about the gay community was disappointing because a lot of gay people work for him. It’s just sad.
Three-times married Trump spoke against gay marriage during his brief GOP presidential run saying at one point: ‘I just don’t feel good about it, I don’t feel right about it.’
He has since reiterated his stance.
Lauper, who appeared on Trump’s Celebrity Apprentice to benefit her True Colors Fund in 2011, is even more outspoken about Trump’s attempts to perpetuate a myth that Obama was not born in the US.
‘I thought he could have done better for his country than just go to the lowest common denominator and stir up the crap,’ she said. ‘It’s our country, it’s not wrestling.’
‘If you try and make our president fail, it doesn’t matter who he is, you make our country fail. And if you really are a patriot, if you really give a sh*t about our country, you don’t do stuff like that.’
‘First of all, you’re an entertainer, and you make ugly buildings, and you’re famous for it. And you have a reality show with very high ratings. Don’t step into the forum like that. Become educated with facts. Don’t just be a sh*t-stirrer.’
‘Our country is in trouble and he keeps wanting to make [Obama] fail. Let’s call a spade a spade. The guy’s a black man and that’s your issue? What kind of idiot are you? Come on.’
Lauper, a Grammy and Emmy winner and longtime LGBT activist, next appears in the Broadway musical Kinky Boots.
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Here’s what will happen next. The media will really pick up on this. Rump will do some interviews, and hammer away at Cyndi, bullying her relentlessly. He’ll say she’s a has-been, hasn’t had a hit album in years (which is a lie; Memphis Blues debuted at #1, and stayed here for 13 straight weeks. It sold over 600K copies, which is rare in the digital download age. In total, among all the charts it was on, it stayed 40 weeks on the charts; it was the #6 best album of 2010 according to Billboard), and that she’s a nobody.
Rump has bullied women in public repeatedly, including Barbara Walters, Rosie O’Donnell, and Martha Stewart. Cyndi will be next on his list. But his character towards blacks, gays, and women tells all.
Wow
YossiI now playing in select theatres
This is actually the 2nd Yossi movie, the first from about 10 years ago called Yossi & Jagger. I’ve seen both recently. In Yossi, there’s reference to Yossi’s former military service. Yossi & Jagger covers about that. However, this near-final scene in Yossi is pretty fantastic, and every single chubby (or not-perfect-like-a-fucking-Macy’s-mannequin) guy has had this moment, or will. It’s a beautiful moment.
(Source: cumlover1200, via mensroom)
