The divorce rate in the U.S. is 52%.
A child is being raped right now.
Women, and some men, are being beaten by their spouse right now.
Someone was just murdered.
A bank was just robbed.
A lonely soul just ended their life.
A preacher just had an affair on his wife of 30 years, with another man.
A family won’t eat before they go to bed tonight.
A man living on the streets will die, & no one will know it for days.
None of those things have anything to do with this picture of two men who love each other, pay their taxes, are productive members in their community, are great uncles to their nephews & nieces, who love their parents and siblings, and have a gaggle of friends.
Stop trying to pin society’s ills on two men kissing or fucking each other. It ain’t got shit to do with you, and it sure to hell ain’t your business.
Well, we finally got our first openly gay professional football player—only not in America. Marcus Juhlin, who plays for the Carlstad Crusaders, came out as gay in the new issue ofQX magazine.
Juhlin, 22, says he was inspired by the example of Michael Sam, the NFL prospect who came out earlier this year. And he wanted to send a message to all the boys and girls who feel like they don’t fit in. He initially approached the magazine in December, asking in an email, “Help me close the closet door and step out into a better life without limitations.”
As a child, Juhlin started out dancing, not tackling. “I danced the jive and swing dance,” he says. “I was pretty good at it, actually, and took bronze in the Nordic Championships.” He started American football when he was 12 and hasn’t stopped. “I can not imagine life without football.”
It was also at age 12 that Juhlin realized he was different from other boys: “It’s hard to explain—I had [a girlfriend] in sixth grade, but it never felt right,” he admits. “It was fun to hang out with my guy friends… Girls were boring and I know that I thought ‘I can not spend a whole life with a girl.’”
His team, the Crusaders, are ranked in the highest division in Sweden and have won the Swedish championship four years in a row. They’re a close-knit squad—two of Juhlin’s brothers are on it—but the response from teammates about Juhlin’s orientation has been overwhelmingly positive: “They all support and respect him,” QX editor in chief Anders Öhrmantold told Out.com.
Homophobia in European sports has become a big issue, with several pro teams taking stances to support inclusion. This week, another American football team, the Bergamo Lions of Italy, produced a provocative PSA slamming anti-gay attitudes.
Neon Tree’s lead singer, Tyler Glenn has come out as gay. And good for him.
Welcome to a new level of personal freedom. Never hide the light in your soul from anyone.
Fred Phelps, Man Who Forever Stopped March Of Gay Rights, Dead At 84 | The Onion - America's Finest News Source
So perfectly written….
TOPEKA, KS—Fred Phelps Sr., the founder of the Westboro Baptist Church and the man who is widely credited with forever ending the gay rights movement in America, died today at age 84.
According to biographers and historians, many of the facets of modern-day society that we now take for granted—such as the ban on gay marriage in all 50 states and the inability of homosexuals to serve in the military—can be traced back to Phelps’ vocal public crusades against the unholy practice of homosexuality, which he began in 1991 and which quickly succeeded in bringing efforts to expand LGBT rights to a spectacular and abrupt halt.
“What Fred Phelps accomplished over the past 30 years—from a federal constitutional amendment limiting marriage to one man and one woman, to nationwide laws allowing businesses to turn away gay customers—makes him easily one of the most successful and monumental figures of the past century,” said biographer Michael Ammons, noting that depictions of gays and lesbians began to disappear from popular culture and the media as soon as Phelps began taking his powerful rallies against homosexuality from state to state. “Fred Phelps devoted his life to one goal, and he triumphed. This was an incredibly influential man who deserved all the attention he received. Think of the legacy he leaves behind: In the past three decades, homosexuality has become practically nonexistent in society.”
“And his record goes on and on,” Ammons continued. “Just take a look around today: Nowhere in this country can same-sex partners enter into domestic partnerships, file joint tax returns, or adopt children. The unmitigated failure of the gay rights movement is something that can be singlehandedly attributed to Fred Phelps and his tireless efforts to show us that this was an unholy behavior.”
In addition to his enduring legislative legacy, experts agree that Phelps’ religious rallies also had an indelible impact on the American social landscape. Many have pointed to Phelps’ preaching against the sin of homosexuality as the overwhelming reason why all homosexual advocacy groups died out entirely in the early 1990s; why nobody in entertainment, politics, or professional sports has ever come out as gay or lesbian; and why citizens who do venture out of the closet feel nothing but ridicule and shame, knowing they are perversions who don’t deserve to exist.
Many historians also noted that Phelps was an outspoken voice on pro-life and pro-marriage matters, and that the current zero-percent rates of divorce and abortion in the United States can be entirely attributed to his powerful message.
“It’s sickening to think what would have happened to our country if Fred Phelps hadn’t succeeded. Just imagining the sin and depravity that would exist all around us if people went out in public with their same-sex partners, or publicly celebrated that perverse aspect of who they are—it’s disgusting, and I’m glad that’s not the world we live in,” said Seattle resident Christine Smith, one of hundreds of millions of Americans who was touched by Phelps’ charisma and was won over by the influential worldview of his Westboro Baptist Church. “But thankfully, Fred Phelps opened everyone’s eyes to the truth that homosexuality is a sin that God will vengefully punish, and we no longer have to deal with any of those vile people enjoying the same rights as you or me.”
“Fred Phelps may be gone, but he will long be remembered for the countless accomplishments and successes he achieved in his lifetime,” she added. “I can safely say that the name Fred Phelps will never, ever be forgotten, and that his entire life’s efforts—his very existence—was most certainly not in vain.”
Just In Case You’re Inspired To Take Action
The Ali Forney Center is a shelter for homeless LGBT youth, who are thrown out of their homes in disproportionate numbers. The Trevor Project offers free, anonymous counseling to LGBT kids, who face social and familial isolation and continue to commit suicide at a rate four times that of heterosexual kids. If you’re looking for similar outreach programs in your community, either of these places will point you in the right direction.
We’re the good guys. Don’t ever forget that.
Game of Thrones actor Kristian Nairn comes out as gay, says “The gay community is MY community”.
Well, in all honesty, when you talk about “the gay community,” you are talking about MY community, haha. I AM aware of it yeah, and I think it’s really lovely. There’s not a day that I don’t get a few messages, but 99% or more are super sweet and nothing smutty at all! Again, it’s a privilege, and I really mean that. I’ve never hidden my sexuality from anyone, my whole life in fact, and I’ve been waiting for someone to ask about it in an interview, cos it’s not something you just blurt out. I’ve tried to lead the questions a few times, to no avail!
Live truthfully, and live your best life.
Sweet Lad, Tender Lad
A Pictorial History of Afro-American Gay Couples
Sweet lad, tender lad,
Have no shame, you’re mine for good;
We share a sole insurgent fire,
We live in boundless brotherhood.
I do not fear the gibes of men;
One being split in two we dwell,
The kernel of a double nut
Embedded in a single shell.
(From ‘Imitation of the Arabic’ by Afro-Russian poet, Aleksandr Sergeyevich Pushkin)
Playwright & historian, Trent Kelley, has curated these photographs from his personal collection documenting love and affection among African American gay male couples. The essay is entitled ‘Hidden in the Open: A Photographic Essay of Afro-American Male Couples.”
Kelley has written in the Huffington Post:
Afro American same-sex loving gay men who were coupled with one another in the distant past walked the streets, ate at the dinner tables, and generally participated in their larger ethnic community out in the open, their relationships known only to those who were consequential to their everyday lives. In this respect, they were out in the open but hidden to those who didn’t know about their sexual proclivities. Hence, the title of this series of pictures dating from the mid 19th century to the late 20th century is “Hidden in the Open: A Photographic Essay of Afro-American Male Couples.”
Some of these images are sure to depict gay couples, whereas others may not.
The end result is speculative at best, for want in applying a label. Not every gesture articulated between these men is an indication of male-to-male intimacies. Assuredly, what all the photographs have in common are signs of Afro-American male affection and love that were recorded for posterity without fear and shame. Friendships where men often wrote romantically to one another, walked arm in arm were not uncommon to straight and gay men alike during the 19th and early 20th centuries. Depending on economic situation, many even slept together and this may have precluded or included physical intimacy between the sheets.
But there were past generations of Afro American gay men who lived and love bravely. They exist in these photographs. Like today’s gay male of African descent, the majority of them were never victims who whined nor required rescuing. Their presence here defy a lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender (LGBT) community often wanting to make them an impotent footnote absent of any self-empowerment within gay culture and those vocally homophobic pockets within a black community wanting to write these men out of the narrative to Afro-American history.
See the rest of this outstanding collection here.
There was once a day where, if you told me I was going to support drag queens and defend people using marijuana, I’d have told you that you’d lost your fucking mind.